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Breast Cancer Treatment, Can I Do This? Yes, You Can.

The Oprah Effect

One day after my surgery, I watched an Oprah “Where Are They Now”. She checks in with people who were previously on her show. Oprah shares clips of their previous tie together. Then, gives highlights on what they’re up to now.

It happened I turned on a show featuring a breast cancer survivor. Go figure.

The young woman diagnosed had two children at the time. Young children like mine. Oprah sat with her during her chemo infusion. Can you imagine having Oprah by your side at the hospital?

Oprah did what she does best asking the most relevant questions. “Were you scared when you started your first treatment?”

The woman, Laurie, invited Oprah to be with her so the world could see what getting chemo was like. Once when Laurie was on camera she shared a key chain with a picture of her daughters.

She said, “(I) look at that and say, ‘I can do this.’”

Immediately, I knew I needed something like that to hold onto during chemo treatment. Something to remind me of the reasons I’m putting myself through breast cancer treatment.

(See Laurie’s “Where Are The Now” clip below.)

The Key Chain

I shared the story with David, my husband. A few weeks later, my key chain broke. An opportunity to follow in Laurie’s footsteps and get my own key chain talisman.

One Saturday feeling like I needed rest, I boughed out of a baseball game with David and Grier. When they came home, my daughter said she had a surprise for me. As I walked towards her, she presented me with a key chain. A Durham Bulls key chain from her new favorite sports team.

“Mama, you keep asking for a key chain. Here ya’ go.”

David said as soon as she saw it, she begged him to buy it. Amazingly thoughtful. She listened the times I talked about Laurie’s key chain. Her big heart wanting to help. I quickly hooked all my keys onto the chain, now carrying it with pride. Not exactly the talisman I’d hoped for, but I guess what I needed.

The Gift

Then, David surprised me during my first week of chemo. On the white linen sheets of our bed, sat a box. Grier ran in giggling ready for mama to open her present.

As I opened the hinged lid, sun glinted off the gold inside. A medallion the size of a quarter floated on black velvet. Looking closely, I saw a lotus flower etched into the medallion.

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The story of the Lotus Flower ~ Lifted from http://www.ba-bamail.com

“The lotus flower blooms most beautifully from the deepest mud” – Buddhist Proverb

The lotus flower is one of the most remarkable creations of nature. Its beauty lies in its purity, because this magnificent flower emerges from the muddy bottom of a pond, yet remains unsoiled.

Its unique quality is said to symbolize the human who rises from the darkness of the world into a new way of thinking and living.

“Just like the lotus we too have the ability to rise from the mud, bloom out of the darkness and radiate into the world.”

Spread out like leaves under the lotus was a pear-shaped diamond, a blue topaz and an amethyst. I’ve talked about healing crystals, but this was a more personal gathering. Our birthstones together helping the lotus flower blossom.

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(My talisman.)

“Your birthstone is in the middle,” David said. The two of theirs on either side of mine. A birthstone family sandwich. Tears streamed down my face.

An inscription, “Come from Love” etched on the back.

I heard these words waking from a dream before my diagnosis. I remember no images or story surrounding the words. Just “Come from love” whispered in the dream. I wrote them down in my journal next to my bed. A message from another place to keep close to my heart.

David created the perfect talisman for me to get through treatment. It was my “picture keychain” done in gold and stone.

Turns out he conspired with Margo Friend and her team to create this one-of-a-kind piece. I heard how Grier added her thoughts during the design meeting. A girl with a point of view.

I wore my necklace every treatment day. While talking to doctors or meeting with the PA, I rubbed it between my fingers. It reminded me about love, worthiness and why I wanted to stay.

Finding something to hold during treatment, a talisman, helped me. This story is an offering to you as it may help.

This post is also a thank you to my incredible husband. David, your strength and care got us through. I’m grateful for you. I love you.


One of the reasons I started this blog was to help “people through breast cancer treatment.”

Not just patients. This disease effects all those surrounding a patient; a partner, a child, a sibling, a parent, a friend.

I hope this web site can be a positive respite for anyone who needs it. Please share with those who could use a little Grace & Ease.

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[Images sourced at Pixabay is not my own.]

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